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Bullying in School: Effective Ways Overcome Fear

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Has someone let you down and made you feel humiliated in front of others? Is there someone who makes you feel like you have to win or pay to protect yourself from them?

It hurts!

Before starting this article, I want to share one incident with you all. This incident is from my school days. I use to keep quiet. Can you guess why? I was a wallflower because I used to stammer! My classmates made fun of me whenever I spoke. Even the teachers did not allow me to read because I stammered a lot. I think you must have understood what I am talking about?

Yes, the topic is: Bullying in School.

But wait a minute! Can’t bullying happen in college, in the workplace, and in adulthood? Yes, I think it can. I know it can.

Recently, a parent asked me, “Is it possible for a teacher to harass a student?” In essence, he was saying, “My son is being bullied by a teacher, but I don’t know what to do about it.” We have had a few negative experiences with teachers over the years and it definitely feels like bullying.

The behavior is very similar: one person tries to take power over another person in a negative, hurtful, or abusive way. So is it “bullying” for a teacher to treat a student this way?

Let’s talk about exactly what Bullying is:

The dictionary defines bullying as, “Someone who keeps doing or saying things to have power over another person.”

Let’s see the types of bullying that happens in school:
  • Verbal bullying includes name-calling, making fun of, cracking jokes at another person, etc.
  • Physical bullying includes pushing, shoving, pinching, hitting, etc.
  • Social bullying includes spreading rumors, excluding people from events, etc.
  • Cyberbullying includes disseminating private information through texts, emails, etc.

Sometimes we’re bullied by our own friends, and we don’t even realize it. You have a group of friends who are all mad at you for some reason, and they isolate you from your group. If they deliberately ignore you, you will see how they approach and do their best to show that they are ignoring you. A week later, you all become friends again and are mad at the next person.

Let’s come back to my life story of handling bullying. I had two options: either to give up and remain that shy, lonely, introverted person or to overcome the fear of bullying.

I chose the second option, and now I really feel delighted about choosing that step at that time. Although, I have been bullied for approximately 6-7 years.

Below are the methods I have taken to overcome bullying. You can do the same.

Do not resort to direct attack

Never resort to direct attack or bullying if someone intimidates you because that is what the person bullying wants. He wants you to act up and defend yourself, and if you do so, you are only going to suffer.


“Don’t bully a bully, because, in the end, you will become a bully yourself.”

Tell the bully to stop and walk away calmly

Believe it or not, it can be very effective. Practice what you have to say with a friend, an adult, or yourself in front of the mirror. Practice speaking firmly and directly with confidence in your voice. Tell others that you think you can earn respect, and encourage others to stand up for themself.

Talking to adults

We are often afraid to tell someone because we don’t want to appear weak or ashamed. Don’t keep it in your heart! Just share it with someone you trust very much like your parents, friends, cousins, etc.

It sounds intimidating at first, but adults can help you stop bullying and fix it. You are not guilty of anything; the person bullying you is. So don’t let your self-doubt and sense of guilt stop you from confiding in loved ones.

Understand that it’s not your fault

Nobody deserves to be bullied! Don’t blame yourself. Whatever happens in life, you are not to blame for being bullied. We live in a society in which we are confronted with stereotypes, prejudice, and discrimination. None of us are left from facing these social grievances. Bullies intimidate because they can. Make it so that they can’t

Be strong!

Whatever the situation is in life, always stand courageously. Face the fear. Be in control so the harasser doesn’t have it. If you are confident and behave you don’t care, no one will be able to bring you down with harsh words and actions.
You are not alone; we’re all stuck in this together.

This is how I coped up with bullying. I believe that you and many others like you and me can too.

In a Nutshell

If another student is bullying your child, or if you see a teacher abusing power, report each incident to the school so that it can be recorded. Meet directly with the school administration. Also, interact with a positive attitude and make it clear that you want a positive outcome for your child. After all, all children deserve a safe environment where they will NOT be bullied or abused.

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Is it time to teach students to stand up against bullying

Bullying can be defined as “abuse and mistreatment of someone vulnerable by someone stronger or more powerful”. Bullying is a huge problem that can be based on children in school. And it can often lead them to shape their thoughts about the world and people around them. Often in a negative light, children who are bullied tend to view others with suspicion or even resentment moving forward. It is an issue that needs to be addressed even at the smallest of levels. Bullying usually takes place in schools but can also happen in adulthood in a workplace environment.

Why do people Bully

Bullying cannot be pinned down to a single factor or reason. There are several reasons that one becomes a bully or engages in bullying. Sometimes even the person who is responsible for bullying has also in life been bullied. Often frustration and anger can lead them to lash out or project their problems on others. This could be due to an issue they’re faced with at home or even in school. Bullying can also be the result of a poor upbringing where they haven’t been able to respect other’s feelings. Which can result in them growing up to become insensitive and often time numb to the plight of others.

The bully is often as vulnerable as his or her victim and probably needs just as much support and help.

Cyberbullying

Cyberbullying is the act of bullying someone through electronic means such as; phones, tablets, and computers usually the medium used is the internet. There have been several attempts by both Governmental & Non Governmental organizations to tackle this issue over the years. However, the measures taken often leave us wanting for more. And the problems are often addressed after the emotional damage has already been. These days, anyone can create fake accounts and use them to either; post lewd, indecent, or even downright abusive comments against either a specific individual, race, or even group of people. Several organizations aid in the redressal of such complaints or acts. Some even provide support in terms of therapy sessions to help the victim overcome any mental trauma.

Who are the victims of Bullying

As mentioned anyone can be a victim of bullying. However, children or adults who are seen as ‘different’ in some way or form are more likely to be bullied. This includes:

  • Being overweight or underweight.
  • Having different sexual preferences.
  • Being from a different race, gender, or religion.
  • Having a disability, either a physical or even a learning disability.
  • Being different in appearance.
  • Having an unusual name.

Effects of Bullying on the Victim

There can be several effects that a victim may face as a result of bullying. From physical health symptoms like tummy aches or even headaches as a result of stress. To even the deterioration of Mental Health.
The lack of sleep or the onset of nightmares can also be attributed to bullying. Anxiety, depression, or even self-harming tendencies can be attributed to bullying. If not identified early on, these signs can have long-term consequences that can change the overall personality of the victim. Insecurity issues and even low self-esteem or confidence can kick in leading them to question themselves and their actions.

What to do if your child is being bullied

The first and foremost thing that can be done is to inform the relevant authority about the incident. In schools, this can often be the class representative, the class teacher. In some schools, there might even be a person appointed to address such issues in the school. It is mandatory by law that schools do not encourage or foster an atmosphere of bullying. Contrary to which strict legal action can be taken against both the culprit and the school in question. It is however advised to not address or attack the parents of the ‘bully’ directly. Any such confrontation could have a possible negative outcome. It is better to shine a light on the incident to the relevant authorities. To resolve the issue by involving both parties, and settle amicably.


In the event of Cyberbullying, people of any age should refrain from responding to any posts addressed to them. Any reply no matter how good an intention can consequently bolster the bully’s confidence. It might be playing right into the hands of the bully. Any posts or comments made should be recorded with evidence in the manner of screenshots or even photographs. It is also advised to report the said post to the social media site in question. Numbers, accounts, or even email addresses can be blocked to prevent any further harassment.

What can we do differently to eradicate bullying?

The foremost action we may take to prevent bullying is teaching our children to respect others and acknowledging their feelings. The simple act of kindness should be taught at a young age to ensure that children grow up; open to the idea that others that may appear or act differently from them are most importantly, just like them. Educating children on diversity and inclusivity can go a long way in allowing them to accept others. Children should also be taught to identify signs of bullying from an early age. It is only once we know to look for the signs do we know what is happening.